It’s an empty feeling. You have the number for a girl you’re interested in. You text her. Hours and maybe even days go by with no response. Somehow you feel something went wrong. Maybe you have the wrong number. Maybe she doesn’t remember who you are. Maybe she just simply missed your text. Was it something I said? Any of these scenarios are possible and most are salvageable.
If the girl doesn’t text back, it doesn’t mean she’s not interested. It usually means that the text you sent her either didn’t warrant a response, came off as too needy or was lost in a sea of other text from her friends or other interests. In that case, you need to up your game.
All you have to do is send her the right kind of text – a text that will stimulate an emotion and make a connection between the two of you.
A good example of this kind of text and something that has worked for me would be something like:
“Just walked into an H&M full of wannabe hipsters. Totally biting your style. No man-purses though.”
This text just screams to be replied to. That’s because I know a little bit about the girl and I’m using that to spark an emotion. She likes to shop at H&M (connection). Calling her a hipster makes her feel either cool or lame (emotion). No man purses strikes the funny bone just from mentioning the word man-purse. Chances are this text will be responded to. In fact, it will most likely garner a positive or funny response – and everybody knows that if you can make a girl laugh, you can definitely get far with her pretty quick.
Don’t stop now. Keep it going.
Aim to keep her interested but don’t overdo it. The last thing you want is to become her texting buddy. Being her texting buddy is probably worse than her not responding to your initial message at all. As long as you’re on her radar, you don’t have to keep sending messages throughout the day. Send her a message once in a while. Always make sure your messages spark some kind of emotion and make a connection between the both of you and you’ll have a much better chance at going somewhere with her. Think about her interests and what you think makes her tick and create your text messages based on that for the best possible chance at a positive response.